Where do I Stand?

tensions between grounded relationships and abstract systems in the world of developmental disability support. It explores the values we stand for—like inclusion, person-centered supports, and community building—and the practices we stand against, such as segregation and bureaucratic imposition. ​ O’Brien reflects on the challenges of balancing human connection with the growing dominance of transactional, rule-driven systems that prioritize efficiency over relationships. ​

The piece emphasizes the importance of social invention, generative listening, and co-creation to build the Beloved Community—a vision of equality-in-difference and authentic relationships. ​ It acknowledges the inevitable compromises and failures in this work but frames them as opportunities for learning and growth. ​ O’Brien critiques the rise of abstract forces like Big Data and compliance-driven bureaucracy, which often overshadow the relational heart of the work, leading to burnout and disconnection. ​

Ultimately, the document calls for a conscious choice to live in truth, embrace complexity, and co-create meaningful change despite constraints. ​ It offers practical advice for navigating these tensions, such as slowing down, seeking diverse perspectives, and staying open to what wants to emerge. ​ Readers are invited to reflect on their role in fostering social creativity and building a just, inclusive future. ​ This is a must-read for anyone passionate about social justice, community building, and supporting good lives for marginalized people. ​